In some circles, it is still considered proper etiquette for a man to bring a woman a small gift on the first date. Sidebar: I’m not being biased by not including gender-neutral terms. I simply have no idea what “dating norms” are for same-sex couples.
If you ask people what’s an appropriate gift, you will get a lot of suggestions for inexpensive items. Based on my quick google search, NOBODY believes flowers are acceptable. That idea is one whose time has passed. While some believe a gift is creepy and un-necessary, I went on a date with a guy who believed such would impress me.
Guess what he gave me? TWO BOOTLEG MOVIES!!!!! Yes, bootleg movies!
I was turned off by that for reasons, not “boogie” reasons, that I don’t think he could fully appreciate. I think bootleg movies = theft! Yes, it is that serious.
I am a creative professional. Essentially, this means that I spend lots of time and money creating the stuff that I do for a living. By “for a living”, I mean SELL. Sometimes, in addition to buying the materials to do what I do, I have to spend time learning how to do certain things. I present workshops and have to design the workshops that I present: I WISH SOMEBODY WOULD JUST PHOTOCOPY THE MATERIAL THAT I HAVE WORKED HARD TO CREATE! Yes, I would sue you if I found out. If it wasn’t a big deal, why didn’t you create it?
Sometimes, I can be a bit of a stickler for certain points; thus, I couldn’t just say, “thank you” and let it go. If you’re going to get to know somebody, you may as well be authentic and transparent from the beginning. Why waste a fake smile (we save those for work!)! So, I asked him whether he, too, saw it as stealing. Of course, he didn’t. Then, I asked him why did he think every movie, including the bootleg ones, come with the FBI warning at the beginning. He said, he said that he it was a legal crime, but not a real crime. He further said that the “movie people” weren’t suffering for it.
Yes, this was quite the not-so-enticing conversation for a first date! I walked away (no, there was no second date) thinking that it was interesting that he thought that it was okay to steal people’s stuff if they already had money. I argued that he was same guy who complained about how black people never get credit for the good thing we do or our contributions to society. I also pondered what I thought was the slippery slope of the thing: if you don’t see this as an issue: if you’ll buy bootleg movies, will you also buy other stolen goods (I know someone who bragged about buying a MacBook for $100 that was “still in the box”)?
What’s your opinion? Is it stealing to buy OR WATCH bootleg movies?